So I did a frantic quick clean, left the place unlocked, and left them a note saying that their child would be home about an hour and a half after their arrival, and Id be there about an hour after that. Ill text you early next week and we can set something up., Them: I never get to see you. The way I found to get kids my daughters liked to come over was to have a ten minute scheduling convo with the parent: get as explicit as possible about times that work well for you, and times that never work, and ask specifically about their times, and then hammer it home. There are so many places and cultures out there, maybe its still normal for some people? 1600, masturbate to porn; 1630, cleanup; 1700, SO arrives. So if any of the people they had carefully arranged in their schedule/chessboard had the temerity to break pattern and show up early or try to clean under the bed or anything that threatened to bring the two sides of their lives together theyd explode with rageand since they couldnt talk about the actual cause of their anger, they often used bullshit nonsensical excuses, like, When you sweep for dustbunnies under the bed it implies you think Im a disgusting person. (Instead of: that is where I keep evidence about my affairs. That is also the way the kids here in our neighborhood do it, they knock but to invite the person out or over, not themselves in. Its 9:30am on a Saturday. I love her dearly but I need more notice than wanna go out in an hour? I dont mind being asked because sometimes I do wanna be spontaneous but I also probably will say no most times and would like to not have to be in the position to have to constantly be the naysayer. That was awesome fun then, but 10 years later if you show up at my house at random, especially after 10, I probably wont even open the door, or I might get mad. Yeah. You could also say Want some company for the street fair? If I am 5-10 min early, then I will walk my ass up to your door and knock. I would say that if a guy invites you over, just say "how about we meet at x" and change the plans before you label him as a creep. You don't need a whole lot of luggage, and it might be a little scary if he sees you lugging in an entire makeup counter. Even short and enjoyable visits can be ruined by not knowing when they will end. ", (Hearing some people may meet a club this weekend) "Oh okay. Home vs. work,surprise! vs. planned, andyou inviting yourself vs. her inviting you,speak to escalating levels of intimacy. The people I remain consistently close friends with for years are the type where we can ignore each other for two months and then pick up where we left off and have a good time, no hurt feelings. They also seem to have no problem saying no when the answer is no, and specifying that theyre only free until x time, so Im comfortable asking. Sometimes, the people issuing invitations have just screwed up. This Is How To Invite Yourself Over To His House, English Conversation Practice - Inviting Someone to the Bar, This Is How To Initiate Physical Contact With A Shy Guy, This Is How Many Dates Before Inviting Him Over. And I have best friends where they get a are you guys home text before I show up most times, just in case theyre asleep or away. Another time maybe and then talk about something else. Thats theyre decision as an adult. And, in fact, I will go out of my way NOT to do things she does not use her words to ask me to do before assigning chores or duties to me. Im begging you, Awkward Army. And no expectations of hospitality or cleaning, just hey, was passing and saw you were home! It was always tacitly acknowledged that it was literally a Hi/bye!. want to come down and get food? and its not a problem (or at worst ill say, whoa still in bed but come up and ill get dressed and then we can go.) and ive had friends who say you walked by my apartment? It would be different in the burbs or rural areas, I assume. (Hell, even the Geek Social Fallacies mention that work is a common class that people are allowed to prioritize in time and attention above friendship. Imagine you are friendly but not close friends with all of these people, and lets look at whats good inviting yourself and bad inviting yourself behavior. SERIOUSLY this is a big one for me. the trick is that i can never tell when its going to be one way or the other. Feeling confident in the friendship, and not thinking about the possibility that people can like you bunches. The fact that you dont find it rude, and would love for people to do it, is valid. If people are showing up uninvited at the door of someone who doesnt like it, that someone would have to have a conversation asking them not to do the thing they are doing, possibility coming across as unfriendly in the process and creating some awkward tension in the relationship. I have a Facebook account with a lot of people friended but rarely log in, so I miss things from time to time because people assume that, if youre on their friends list, you will see their posts. Though I am just now recalling that in the small town where my partner grew up, just dropping by unexpectedly and saying hi is weirdly totally normal. I also generally deal with social anxiety and nothing brings it to a head like uncertainty of being welcome. This is a more specific but still open ended suggestion that allows them to specify how much time they have to devote to hanging out, and pick a place that is convenient to them. So maybe but I guess will never know. You were learning. Its like that one time Johnny England went a wandering without saying when that one time was. In college, in dorms or group housing situations in the early 1990s, friends were like vampires: Invite them in once and then they werepretty free to come and go, and there would always be that one person who doesnt pay rent but is nonetheless always around. There are really tough dynamics at play because FAMILY and also because its been going on for years. Of course, some people are just bad at initiating, and can get into a lazy habit of letting the other person do all of it, but it could also be a sign that shes not as into this friendship as you are. . How long is that glass of water going to last? I moved a year ago partially to be closer to friends; after making suggestions and having them declined or canceled at the last minute, over and over again, Ive told the Brom that if hes offered a transfer out of state, Ill start packing today. A little flirting goes a long way. All it takes is the willingness to step forward, and pick yourself. But I didnt tell her I was in the area. Sometimes when my bathrooms have gotten out of control I purposely invite someone over on the weekend to induce a shame-cleaning because I will live with a much grosser toilet situation than I would ever allow a guest to see. ), I wasnt invited! And then, if they feel differently about this issue, they say something dismissive, and then you 1) KNOW that they feel differently, and 2) can say, Im just not comfortable showing up somewhere unless I have an invitation. And thenagain, this works best if youre close, I thinkmaybe they remember to invite you in the future. This is hugely fraught partly bc of things like anxiety disorders but partly bc a lot of people in this category have repeatedly suffered derision, dismissiveness, ridicule etc from friends and family many times in the past. One time she offered to help me pack for a camping trip with my friends that she wasnt even going on and only gave me 5 mins of advance notice. I didn't mean for it to come across as an invitation. I know a lot of friends who would hate to have that surprise. I dont mind drop-ins, if its just a rare opportunity thing like they were down the street running an errand. This "friend" is no longer invited to my home. as possible. I need you to help me fix it! If FriendSpouse is busy, Friend has been OK with me just coming by, but (because *I* dont like it) I tend not to want to do that, and the upshot is that a lot of FriendPlans turn into FriendMissedOpportunities because Im waiting for a text or call because wed already said we wanted to hang out, but Friend is assuming that Ill take the initiative because I know that Friend will forget. Like, if shes playing with toys in a waiting room and we have to go, I dont say, so, are you ready? because of course she isnt. I actually thought about the nude Brazilian implications but I couldnt figure out a way to phrase it that didnt include them. It would be lovely to not have fear and anxiety due to an upbringing that showed me that I had no right to privacy, and choices or control over my life. Inviting yourself over to her place. My interpretation isnt that the world has changed to respect peoples boundaries, its that the world (as I experience it) has changed in response to technology and moving to a big city from a small town and that my anxieties havent grown less because boundaries are different, they have just shifted their arena. The situations in this response arent sticks to beat yourself up with, they are ways you can be more confident and comfortable in making plans with others. Then suddenly it became not okay for ME to do that. Before you ask, think about your personal or business privacy concerns. I can still say no of course, but it becomes rather rocky when it shouldnt have to. Im going to share what Im comfortable with and Im going to kick the rest under the bed until you leave. Why view it as a personal offence? This kind of stuff is hard, but I firmly believe that there are solutions that will make everyone happy without anyone having to feel ashamed of their preference, goddamnit. Im in the area. Is asking. Re: Purple0 (sorry nesting fail) we dont all have to be the best of friends, but when i get signals that someone doesnt want to spend time with me, i dont think of that person as a friend. It hasnt worked as well for me though. Their legs might get tired! While at it, be sure to give him prior notice before the proposed hangout date or time, as if you ambush him he may cancel on you due to prior plans or even simply because his apartment is messy. As always, excellent advice Captain! This situation really shook me. If you cant, at least call to update me! So we talk about plans past and future all the time and we expect people not to be weird about it. Not every surprise visit was unwelcome. And when you did, Id grab my shoes, say goodbye, twas great to see you and be out. My life doesnt accommodate drop-ins, and if any of my friends did that, Id ask them not to. I am not good at dealing with such people. To dinner at not even my house, but my PARENTS house. i agree with a lot of what youre saying, being part of a group does not automatically mean that you are invited to all the things, that is very true. Different strokes and all.). Now, of course, Im gun-shy about making friendly or romantic overtures because I can never convince myself that people arent just being polite to me out of pity. Theres food in the fridge, make yourself at home. Bye oops grab the dog please. But thats not whats being discussed in this subthread the question was raised whether it was a priori needy to stop by someones work to get a hug. The end. I was raised that its unforgivably rude to show up to any gathering, no matter how casual, without an explicit Would you like to go to X event? But then as I grew up and encountered casual, after-work, anyone-who-wants-to-come-can-come events, I was finally told that I was isolating myself by expecting an explicit invitation because thats not how it works.. Im free next Thursday, if you want to try for then?. Ive had friends who I would never drop in on uninvited, through to friends who have an open invitation and have given me a key and have told me to turn up whenever even if theyre at work because they like to come home to a house full of random friends. It definitely hurts Mr Birds feelings to find out later that his dad, who we have a good relationship with but are only able to see a few times a year, was in Big Town all day with plenty of free time and didnt stop by (or call to see if wed be free that day). But I also have friends where hey Im heading that way and Ill be there in an hour can I crash on your couch tonight? is completely acceptable (but also comes with a side of being told no, actually I cant crash tonight because kids are sick/family is in town/someone else has the couch). PS Side note to LW: you arent doing this. Excellent advice from the Captain. If they dont act like they like me (even if they actually do but dont bother to behave like they do), they obviously dont want to really be friends. But why do you want them to walk from their car to your door and back again regardless of the weather? And then people wouldnt call, and theyd say things to me later like, Oh, I didnt hear from you so I thought you didnt want to get together. So frustrating, as is that other Northern California custom of texting someone on the day of an event to say, Are we still getting together at X time? Well, of course we are I agreed, right? I'm Chris Macleod. (However if it is D&D weekend I might just tell you to come over anyway!). A lot. Even if I were OK with hugs, I wouldnt want to be repeatedly visited at work to hug if nothing else, that would likely be viewed as incredibly unprofessional and quite likely disruptive to collegues. A family member? This feeling is only exaggerated when you know that Santa is going to be visiting your house and bringing you gifts. Since I became bedbound Ive had to have my parents here, in my house. Come for dinner tonight at 8:00 is an invitation, Come by later is Hey, glad to see you, we should catch up at length soon. I havent spent time in Brazil, so I dont know if thats a Brazilian thing or a dudes-who-grew-up-with-M-specifically-where-he-grew-up thing but it is a real thing, and M. has had to rethink and clarify it for American friends now that he lives here. And mine is people that wont stop by even when theyre in the area, even if they are driving right by, even if they have nothing pressing to do, JUST because some people think its rude. Asking a little in advance gives me a chance to refuse if Im busy or say yes enthusiastically (and shame-clean) if Im not. Shit like what you describe would scar anybody, and good for you for talking about it openly. And some guys think women really like to be cooked for, so he could have good intentions. My parents put up with it because faaaaaaaaaaammmilyyyyyyyy. LW says they considered this person their *best friend. Did you want some company / help? That sounds nice, but I need to find this part for my vacuum cleaner means No. If you get one of these refusals-for-reasons, a good thing to do is to saysome variation of Gotcha! What Happens If You Put Salt In The Corners Of Your House? Remember to be yourself and be cool and casual during the conversation. Im not going to go out early to unlock the gate so they can come to my door especially when its -40C and icy outside, which it can be for months at a time here! Not saying this is a sensible way to do things, but for anyone else readingyes, sometimes it does slip peoples minds!). Like, most of Mr Birds family lives in Nearish Smaller Town, and often have to come to Big Town where we live for shopping, doctors, etc. I didnt know I was invited! A no is a no. It still doesnt necessarily reflect your relationship with someone though. And I dont feel badly for talking about fun things with people in my life. drifting? If Im in the neighborhood Ill text and say hey, Im having dinner at X if you want to join but thats the extent. Its work, which is a coworkers and customers and me place, and unless the friends also happen to fit into one of those categories I dont want to see them. If theyd gone with the latter I could give a soft no if I wasnt feeling it and dignity for all would be kept intact, but by hiding that question it pre-empts the soft no by making you divulge that no you didnt really have any plans and are in fact free, thus making it trickier to evade an unwanted invitation gracefully. Or if Im entertaining Alice who is my sister-in-law I will feel fine talking about this family event, to which Bob- not my brother!- is not invited. Also see Im planning to be in your neighbourhood geocaching, are you home for us to stop and say hello / join us for one of the caches nearby?. If I tried to have him call T from home to do it, I might be able to sit next to him and coach him through it, but I would have to talk to Ts parent then anyway to work out the logistics of time and place we do not live within walking distance of one another. I hold the one doing the rejecting responsible for being clear. Myself I like more notice. We were all night owls, but at least twice visits in the neighborhood were after 11pm. The reason is that I didnt invite you. I too have been in a fairly fighty friendship that was often, like you say: wow I have no idea why we are in this situation. Doesn't matter what "vibe" you get off him, this is a man you barely know. Later, after invites had gone out and the spares were given to the Bride, Bride told housemate to tell me I was invited verbally while at some other event. so definitely think you are spot on with your advice and response here, especially about letting her be the one to reach out next. He isnt a part of me, you know, hes another person that you can invite or not, and Im not a mind reader to know you want him there unless you, well, say so specifically. And now were all sitting here awkwardly because we cant talk about dicks with him around? You may also want to give her advance warning before dropping by the office; it sounds like shes more receptive to surprise visits there*, but since you say youve felt her pulling away lately, its probably a good idea to double-check with her before popping in unannounced. So, Id be interested to know how to handle someone once theyve already shown up, uninvited and not particularly wanted, to social events. Its harder to say no than yes, so phrasing the question in a way that they dont have to say no makes a huge difference. Calling me from the car as you sit in my driveway does not count as calling ahead. I think thats a polite expression though. Why do people wear shoes in the house? Also, I dont really agree that there was a certain time when these things were normal and now its all changed.. Gotta install the air conditioners and figure out how to assemble that Ikea desk., Yellow Light. Generally, with close friends, I do the text and make plans like now approach. Guess Cultureplays a part, where Askers figure Why not, the person can just say no! and Guessers are like Arrrghhh how can the person not know better/I find it very difficult to say no to a direct request. So Im glad that you wrote in. Next Thursday? Lets see I have body pump at ten stop at the store home at noon, shower yeah how about one, one thirty? do not show up at 12:30. My friend was not receptive to this type of hang-out (she is the kind who shame-cleans SO HARD, so I think an unannounced visit is a tiny version of Hell for her). It works pretty well . I think its one of those relics of when a Good Woman didnt go out much during the day and/or when basically everyone was on the same schedule(or when people lived in a small town and if you werent working in some way you were at home. Seconded. Unfortunately, that particular time conflicts with my schedule. Now that there isnt a standard, or at least not one I received, unexpected visits turn into waiting games with awkward dancing around getting someone to leave at the end. Hey, these new gaslights I bought, arent they great?. My mom, my sister and I had come to town planned ahead of time to arrive at their house and have dinner. Single. If put on the spot they may feel too uncomfortable saying no. Then wed all stop being kept on tenterhooks waiting for the arrival of the person. There was often a pattern where Kid One would ask permission to invite Kid Two over, their grownups would give permission, the kid would do the actual inviting, Kid Two would ask their grownups for permission, Kid Twos grownups would only give permission if they were able to give Kid Two a ride if needed, and then Kid Two would accept the invitation and visit Kid One. Im like this too and I have an anxiety disorder. I like to not wear pants in my own house when it is hot outside and I feel like not wearing pants. I wonder, and this is me being suspicious and on the lookout for odd behaviour as a profession, so I could be totally wrong and if so I apologize, but I wonder: If the intensity of his reaction has anything to do with the fact that he wasnt working, but instead naked. Someone showing up at work means I suddenly have to juggle multiple of those states at the same time, and it is socially tiring. THIS. Even my parents call before coming over, and the only times Ive said no are when I was too sick or exhausted to want to see them. Thats what I mean. Im yet another person who doesnt go to things unless explicitly invited. 2. But I fight against that urge, because, if they are going to be my friend, they might as well see my clutter up front and be okay with it. I absolutely dont want to be visited at work, ever, by anybody. So they test, and test some more, hoping for signs of anything that might confirm that a connection still exists. Itturned out ok, but I sort of wish I had subsequently invited one or two other people, because it was kinda weird to travel with this guy (he wasnt even a CLOSE friend, I have NO CLUE what he was thinking). It's one thing to show up at a party, it's another to insert yourself into a four-day excursion. I mean, sure, some people might, if theyre really nice and interested in pretty much everything. Honestly this bothers me sometimes too, even though I dont like completely unexpected visits. hut it's in the files, of course." They had got back to the door . (or text) I may not be able to, either due to existing plans, or lack of remaining energy for interacting with humans. Likewise if hes invited somewhere and its an invite for both of us or hes been specifically told that partners are welcome; if not then Ill happily wave him off and have an evening in on my own with a good book and a bottle of wine and have some me time. @lizzieonawhim: Ugh, yes. A group of friends may be totally open to new people joining them, but are so close with each other they unintentionally give off an air of being exclusive. I once traveled to my old uni town to check out my old haunts (also birdwatching. they just didnt want me there. Me: Option 1: Ummmm okay I guess. Option 2: I dont want to do that *explain why*. Once, I answered the door, lights out, my girlfriend and I in pajamas and on drugs and, Im really high right now and was not expecting you, was not enough to deter about 45 minutes of awkwardly hanging around the living room answering curious questions mixed with small talk. i hear you, and i for sure do not think you should have to explain to people why you do not want them glued to your side at all times. How about you suggest the idea to him in a way that will make it impossible for him to say no. My SIL is the queen of this, but its also happened more than once with the parents of some of my kids friends. In the most Brazilian(*) way, of course. When you stop by at work for a hug there is an easy, I have to get back to work reason to end the encounter. My rule of thumb is to not go anywhere where I have not been expressly invited (kind of like the vampires in the Captains hilarious trailer). Oh eek. I think I am convincing myself to let her go and feeling super sad about it. I have a very polite no soliciting sign on the gate. Goodbye, next time call a day or two in advance and we can schedule something.. I feel a bit more strongly than you about being someones hug person. Gah. Pick your clothes up off the floor, make the bed and for the love of God, make sure it smells good in there. A lot of people were raised in families where avoidance of awkward situations is the only model they know, so they just dont have the communication tools to do anything else. If youre her friend and she likes you, she actively enjoys unexpected knocks on the door and quick visits that end up taking the entire afternoon. Oh, great! Sometimes if you give me the advice I will bite your head off. Yet because these folks are in my social orbit, its pretty obvious that if they want to make time for some other activity or person (not necessarily even a friend) they can usually manage to find it. But heres what I thought of before looking through all the comments. And Im usually ok w/ that. As people get to know me, they learn that its usually best not to give me advice unless I directly ask for it (because if I want it, I will). Movies are dark and great for making out, and you won't risk giving him the wrong impression. He only ever is here for 15 minutes and hes been my husbands friend for more than 20 years so I dont feel as if I can be as agressive about my boundaries as I normally am. But say a person you see every now and again text saying something like ' I will come over in 3 days time to see you. Repairing this friendship might involve giving your friend some space, planning things more in advance (Hey, Im picking up my mail tomorrow at 2pm, do you have time for a quick visitthen?), and in not going to her house unless she specifically invites you there. 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